Humanism 2!

While, I did highlight the injustice taking place on women in my previous post, I believe its time to throw light on the other side of the coin too. Man, a term used mostly for expression of power. Man, the guy who saves the actress in all the movies. Man, the keeper of power. Man, someone who does not cry. Man, someone who knows how to get things done by the use of his power. Man, someone who enjoys sexual activity even if he has not consented it. These are all the common beliefs of society with respect to men.

Male rape. How can a man be raped? The famous "Mard Ko Dard Nahi Hota". Our society is weirdly interesting. If a boy gets beaten up , he's not a man at all. As sad as I am speaking to you about this , it is true. Until February 3 2013 , rape was considered a crime only on women. So men who were raped before that must have seen worse than hell on earth already. Male on male rapes constitute 93 % of male rape cases . Which is as shocking and saddening as it gets. While , a minority of 7 % male rapes are female on male rapes. It's surprising that out of every 10 male rape cases only 1 is reported. In fact, in most of the male rape cases , the victim is asked to forget it calling it a "fight". Males have the added burden of facing a society that doesn't believe rape can happen to them. Especially , when it's a female on male rape the common opinion is "He's a man, he must be enjoying that". Although, the survival rate of female rape victims in less, compared to male rape victim. A popular movie, released  in 2014,  was made on the basis of a plot to trap a boy for money on the basis of IPC section 498A. I did not hear a single person speaking about it. In fact, the film made a collection of 24.3 crores. The number of reported male rape cases are drastically low compared to female rape cases.

To tell you a fact, I myself went through physical violence in my school days by my seniors when I was in 4th standard because I wasn't aggressive like other boys or never believed in reciprocating violence. During my Engg college's intro session by my seniors ,I was asked about my marks in Mathematics ,which happened to be 64 and the response I received from them was "so you only chased girls during your PUC 2" .

Being a human basically is difficult these days. It's Humanity that is endangered. If we don't do anything about it soon, then humanity will go extinct. Lets set our gender biases aside and save Humanity together. All you need to be his human to stand up for a human. #Humanism

       

HUMANISM!

We all are dealing with issues today in the world, and here is one that I would be highlighting today. Feminism is a term that may seem simple and has very clear meaning ,but is often misinterpreted by people at large. Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Equality is what is emphasized upon . So, please note that there is nothing to be afraid about here. The point that feminism is not synonymous to man hating is crucial part of understanding feminism.  It just means that have the guts to stand for equality. So, if you are a feminist ,no matter who you are just be proud of yourself because you stand for equality. 

I believe that it's one's personal choice to decide how they want to lead their personal life. It's a woman's choice how she wants to lead her life , same way how a man chooses to do so. All that is resulting out of this is more difference of opinions between genders. The way world should see it is ,if any human is subjected to injustice, you don't need to judge the gender to fight for the person's justice. What I mean by this is , say someone named ABC undergoes a physical assault by XYZ group or person , it should be irrelevant ,if ABC belongs to this religion or that gender or any other parameter by which we stereotype people.

When a woman says "I can wear whatever I want', what she means is that, her way of dressing should in no way be judged to what kind of person she is , and that no limitation should be exercised on her. To give you an example, when we hear quotes like " you can be whatever you want to be" , logically we can become a terrorist ,or a social worker . But, the way we interpret it is that we can become anything good that we want to be. Every statement, logically has two sides .The maturity to take up the positive in any statement is needed the most in such times, instead of pointing fingers at each other. Why this point is being stressed is because in the crimes against a woman, the cause of the crime is interpreted that, the way in which a woman dresses has been associated to her character. This is bizarre. When a woman says that she can be involved in a physical relationship with anyone, it only means that she reserves the right to trust anyone with her body and soul. For example, in the nirbhaya case, most of the causes given as analysed by many for the horrendous act were that she was roaming in the night wearing modern clothes and she was with a boy who happened to be her friend. We have no right to judge a person, by what time they go out or what what they wear or with whom they go out.  Whereas, the original cause was the inhuman mindset of some men. 

Even if we somehow understand feminism we are afraid to come out of the traditional Indian closet. When we say feminism, the way I want everyone to see it is, a subset of society. If a particular subset of society ,being deprived of the rights and privileges that are enjoyed by the rest of the society, I believe, it's the responsibility of society at large to stand up for the equality of the particular subset. I call this "Humanism"(Please do not google this word.... it's a term I use only in this post). We judge people by their gender, clothes, religion and God knows what else. For a change, see a person as a person. All you need to be is "HUMAN" to stand for a human's rights. Finally to wrap up things , a pinch of sorcery from Daniel Radcliffe a.k.a Harry Potter - " I'm a feminist as much as I'm an egalitarian about everything and I believe in meritocracy. I think anyone who isn't at this point is swimming against the tide, just like people who are vaguely homophobic or racist or sexist". #Humanism

The Deadliest Phobia?

Boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, best friends forever and the latest, fractions of these roles. The most riveting topics among youth. We all have people in our lives to whom we say our "i love yous”   our "i will always be there for yous" our "you're the closest one to my hearts", " i care for yous" and the list is interminable. We all have at least one person in our life with whom we share all that happens with us. We use all the above mentioned sweet gratifying sentences to let them know how poignant they are in our lives. It all seems like it’s going to last forever and ever.

It’s after this that the real problem arises. COMMITMENT! When I say commitment let me make myself clear that it’s not just about boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Commitment is just being able to walk the talk. If you can stay by the words you have spoken, that is commitment. Commitment to most these days appears to be the ghost that haunts their minds. When it comes to commitment I see four kinds of people. Firstly those who really love it, who are just waiting to say something and stand by it. Secondly those who get into commitments only if it’s in their comfort zone. Third, those who are scared, so scared to open their mouth because they might have to stand by what they've  said.Finally , the rare ones who never say anything. But all they think of is goodness of their loved ones and do far more than what they ever say.

It doesn't matter if you belong to any of the above four species. You will have the fear of not being able to stand by it. Hurting someone. Loosing trust. Which results in self-deprecating yourselves. As much as I hate to admit it, even I couldn't keep some promises. Couldn't stand on some words I spoke to someone. Now that is what I call “Human”. We are not robots and we happen to be erroneous at times.  Does that mean we should stop making commitments? I am sure your answer in unison would be no.

Commitments tell us who we are. But, failing to keep them sheds the light on the fact that “We Are Humans”. Also, the more you want to obviate something, the more it claws right back into your life. At the same time taking it too lightly might spifflicate someone’s life way out of proportions. I am sure many of you might see commitments synonymous to pressure. But, the truth is it was made so that human life could revolve around it. If you happen to break a commitment to someone, it’s not the end. You can still earn back the feeling that the person had for you. Not that it’s easy but not impossible either. It wouldn't hurt us to forgive someone if the person truly deserves it.

Even if you screw up, don’t give up. I recall a line from Harry Potter movies – “Help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who ask for it”. I have my own version of this applied to life “Second chance in life will always be given to those who undoubtedly deserve it”. So just make sure you are deserving and wait for your chance. Finally, my message to everyone this New Year is to find it in ourselves the finesse to stand by your commitments. Don't avoid it, instead embrace it and I am sure by doing so you will be able to rejuvenate the human inside you.

The Magic in our stars!!!!

Well the last time I had started writing, it was a because of a person. Finally as I am resuming it now I guess after two years, it’s because of a person. I will be using the word person for the one I want to talk about in this post. It really amazes me when I look at the impact the person who made me start writing again, has on me and my life. The person is seriously one of the most simple-minded person. I think this person has changed three magical words in my life from I love you to “M Gud Le :-)”. The smiley at the end really tells one thing about her. She’s got to have the patience of a rock to type it that way compared to an emoticon that takes just one push of a key. You know sometimes there are these casual moments and later in your life when you think about them, they really were the “Dear Diary Moments”.

Well our first time conversation was funny and interesting at the same time. The words I spoke were “Where is the something Class?” and the answer was simple from the person as well. We never talked thereafter. One day I was just entering one of our mutual friend’s room. My mutual friend and that person were talking to each other on phone, when suddenly my mutual friend said “That person says hi to you”. I was like “is the person nuts?” Why in hell would anyone care about me being in that room. That was one instance I felt there’s something special about this person as this was the first time and incident like this ever happened in my life. It so happens that sometimes you’re in the moment, a really special one and you say something without understanding its consequences. It was a promise i made. Probably one of the biggest in my life . But surprisingly those were one of the best words I ever spoke. I am damn sure the person remembers them. I've never been so happy about  using the power of speech.

Our first hangout was through our mutual friends. We had been to a lake and I was just thinking about how we are together and someday we’ll just drift off like autumn leaves that are blown away by wind. Everyone said why do you get so serious?. But this person said go on I am listening. I still remember that the first piece of writing I ever wrote was for this person. But what impressed me more than that is what it meant to the person. The person still has it well preserved. This person is the only one who knows what I have dreamt about my marriage.  

Well, it so that happened that one day I really had this bad dream in which I saw this person getting harmed. Well people usually let it go. But I always was, still am and will always be an emotional fool. So we went to church and sat there just praying for the person. Before this incident I truly never believed in prayers. I believe that is what keeps me human. The most incredible thing came from this person when the person told me that we both dreamt about making preparations together for my elder sister’s marriage. By far this person happens to be the only one who told me that and I guess may be the only one ever. Yes I am meticulous and yeah I don’t really believe in doing something big but really starting with sweet things.

Being a superhero fan I remember these lines and I quote "He's the hero Gotham deserves, but not the one it needs right now. So we'll hunt him. Because he can take it. Because he's not our hero. He's a silent guardian, a watchful protector. A dark Knight." The person is like this to me. I never thought we would be best friends. The person doesn't talk to me all the time or daily. I don't even get time to spend with the person. But I know the person is there with me, all the tine.  We are each other's dark Knights. We watch each other's backs. This person truly taught me that togetherness was not messaging each other daily. Or calling each other frequently. I always wondered how literature comes to me. I guess it just does. Well here is something I wrote for the person "You came as a hope and became my faith". The person truly stands for this, Truly,together there is nothing that we cannot achieve. Yes I have an indestructible horcrux(for those die hard harry potter fans) of mine in the person and the person's in me. We live really far from each other and yet you never seemed closer to me. You are one of the very few people who inspires me.

Being with this person seems morning and the person's absence feels like night. Times will always try to drift us apart. But, you will always be close to my heart. Love you friendoo.

P.S: Just hold my hand and we could walk through the jungle of darkness with togetherness as the ray of light.

A LESSON FINALLY LEARNT!

Sometimes very small incidents change our life by a huge extent. Well it was just yesterday and i was still in my “haven’t got a single call from a company” mode. It was evening and i had been to the nearby lake just to feel better. Luckily i had a camera and was taking some snaps of birds there. I had finished it and suddenly i heard someone saying hi. I turned around to find out that it was my lecturer who taught me CAD in the first year of my engineering. He casually asked me how are you doing? I told him that many of my friends are placed in multiple companies and i haven’t attended a single interview yet! He said you’re spending great quality time . I saw you taking snaps and how involved you were in it! You know something its not easy . Youth today loose their hopes over pretty small things even when they have so many opportunities. I’m glad you were enjoying your time.

Placement , something that makes a student believe himself and also standardizes his ability. As depressed i was of not having heard from a single company i stopped living life. Life just went on the way  it could probably go. I started becoming isolated and far from everyone. No new clothes , no buying anything new. Finally i started doubting myself and my  abilities. The hurricane of not being placed hit me and hit me real hard! I was shredded into pieces. I  even stopped talking . All my friends wondered what’s with me because i was always a blabbermouth. Well life seemed to have driven me into oblivion.

Coming back to the evening at the lake, i wondered what he told me about and it lead to the inception of a  series of thoughts in my mind!  I know placement or even attending recruitment programmes builds a lot of confidence in you. But it doesn’t mean that you cannot succeed if you you’re not placed! I’m not saying that we all can be Narayan Murthy , but becoming ourselves is the greatest thing that could happen for us . The greatest person we can ever become is ourselves. That’s when i felt that without drawing and writing my life would’ve been so pale. There’s so much to life than just success or failure. All we have to remember is to keep trying. Life is to enjoy! Doing what you love the most. So whenever you face failure, draw someone’s portrait! Help someone find their moment of success! Write something that comes to your mind! Feel the chilled breeze in the evenings breath it in and feel the love in it sent by someone somewhere in this world. When it rains get wet in rain, get your clothes dirty! Hangout with your loved ones! You’ve got just one life ! Live it like never before. Don’t spoil it because of someone or something. Life is a gift to be enjoyed not to be sad upon. Nothing heals wounds the way  time does. Just keep yourself interested in something and you’ll transcend through any phase of your life! Celebrate success and failure equally!

We all come across such people in our lives who although, are not close to us impact our lives to a great extent! Help us realize what we are. All we have to do keep our eyes wide open to everything that we come across in our lives and we’ll surely have our share of sparkling moments of our lives! Cheers to life! Cheers to the greatest gift of God!

Technology - The Dirty Picture!

Well  what’s gonna follow this line is something serious that we have been too negligent to notice or say too self centered to be bothered about .

In today’s world we say technology is the crown of science and I don’t deny it but has technology really been able to improve lives ? Yes it has, but in gaining something new we’ve not been keen enough to track what it has taken away from us. Let me start with these social networking websites. I completely agree that social media has increased our social quotient but these are shallow waters. Let me take you the darker depths of it. Say I have a girlfriend and I say that I love her, she may read the word love but can she read how many feelings are hidden behind that single word? Can we quantify feelings ? the truth being we do it and why just because everyone does it. Is it possible for me tell my girlfriend how much I love her just through this texting? Love is just supposed be read in the eyes. Say my girlfriend is very beautiful can I even notice her beauty? Is it possible to console a person emotionally on these sites with images etc? And the most ridiculous flaw I found in social networking websites is if you update your status saying you’re sad, people like it!!!! Isn’t it the height of stupidity? But we are the “move on” generation no matter what happens we move on. Is this the society we wanna leave for our future inhabitants of this earth?

We call ourselves the so called “engineers” with great pride yet we design technologies that harm birds and various other living organisms and the worst of it we know all this but we still do it! We create such blunder mistakes and then find some irregularities in government and we protest! We accept things very easily without even analyzing them. We demand equality when we ourselves don’t practice it when we claim ourselves as the superior beings and we encroach everything from the rightful inheritors of the earth and still ironically wear t shirts saying “Being Human”. Our standard of life is increasing but, the quality of our life is falling and yet we say we’re progressing. Man being known for his intelligence isn’t able to conceive this simple idea and rectify it. I agree we have to earn our daily bread but its better to be hungry than to  snatch something from others, fill your stomach with it and behave like its completely right.Morals are falling apart. Isn't it the sign of a tornado that is ripping our society apart ! Cellphones result in insomnia and various other sleep related problems!

Coming to the development of a child, in this era where children spend most of their time in digital world which takes them equally far from the real social world. Development of a child is always incomplete without socialization but that is absolutely missing these days! We are drenched in Technology for most of the things in our life. Can you capture the happiest moments of your life in some pics? Superficially yes,but can an image show a heart blooming like a flower filled with ecstasy? Man has just started an age where there is quantification of everything .why do we find people updating sad statuses? Its just because they dont have anyone to hold their hand and tell them " Don't worry no matter what comes in your way, we'll face it together". 

Why do we depend on technology where it isn’t needed? Instead of saying hi to my friend on social networks who lives in my neighborhood why can’t I go to him directly and spend some quality time with him? I am not someone who opposes technology! Man has made technology not the vice versa .Technology is a boon to humans if its used in the way it is supposed to be! But humanity is just not matured enough to handle such immense power.All i wish is that we don’t let it become a curse!technology isn't bad but the way man uses it gives an ugly picture of it! Change isn't needed in technology but in our minds and hearts! Its in our hands now as the present of our nation to decide what’s right and what’s wrong. Its time to redefine progress and restore the imbalance!WITH GREAT POWER COMES GREAT RESPONSIBILITY!SPIRIT!

LOVE - REDEFINED!

LOVE – we all are hit by this storm one or the other day. Even I had my share of love that I was gifted from GOD!

She joined my school in eighth standard. She was kind of an introvert from the first day that I noticed her. Although I did notice her but had never imagined that she would become so special  one day. I hardly used to talk to her and hardly paid any attention to her. She was just one among my classmates for me. Slowly and steadily we caught each others eyes staring at us and I used to hate it when any girl stares at me. We eventually became good friends over the period of time.  Finally we stepped into 10^th standard and she was the most easily accessible person to me. School days ended and we both separated and I was all cool with it as if nothing’s going to change. But slowly I did feel her absence. Also, my best friend hated her. He never liked her and told me to be away from her.  

Then came PUC 1^st year and also with it came the pressure to improve as it was the crossroad to our career. We started being together most of the time. There was something about her that instigated me to know her better. I was always spotted with her in college and I became known to people because I was her good friend. I loved spending time with her and knowing her better. We used to talk with each other most of the times. On the other hand  I was  failing in mathematics. As per my tuition records I had scored 12 out of hundred in my exams which scared the hell out of my mom and she was really worried if I could even pass the exams. My maths lecturer in my tuitions had told me that I’ll surely not pass in the board exams but it was time to subvert the paradigm that anyone who scores 12 can’t score thirty five in finals.  For this to happen I had to focus completely on maths and it was truly the most challenging time of my life I thought during that phase. I started coping up with the subject and she and I would be with each other after twelve thirty. I used to stay awake late for her and she used to be awake for me. Thank GOD I finally made 64 out of 100 in my final exams and all the credit goes to these three persons my college teacher -Christopher  sir, mom and my best friend Kiran Chikaparappa.  Everyone at my home was delighted when they got to know my marks but it also marked the end of being with her as my parents thought that she was the reason that I was not doing good with studies  but for me,she was the reason I was studying.

Well it was time to decide about my career and no matter how much my dad forced me I chose a career in which she would be with me. It was third semester and one of my favorite lecturer’s class when “one flash  and I lost my heart to her  forever”. This was the moment I realized that it was love that kept us together no matter what the situations were. “I fell in love with her “. Twenty four hours seemed so less. Love was in the air. I didn’t realize days and nights . There were only two phases of time for me now, one in which she was with me and the one in which she wasn’t.  Sleep, food , nothing interested me other than being with her.

I’m sure you all are very excited to know who she is? She is my sweetheart  my VISION of doing something that I wanted to with her. She is my branch of engineering biotechnology . Let me explain everything now as I’m sure you all are shocked at the previous sentence. Biology was introduced as a separate section from eighth standard! I took PCMB combination in my PUC. Staring at her meant reading her during class hours when the subject was taught. Being with her meant  studying her. I used to study biology after twelve thirty in the night so that my other subjects weren’t disturbed. A lot of you would disagree with me saying, how can you love an idea? Well, Swami Vivekananda loved a VISION!  I feel this was the reason I was born. To be the guardian of this vision.Some of you would say have I gone mad and I’d say yes I believe “if you’re not mad about something you can’t achieve anything apart from the ordinary”. She’s more of an immortal lover to me. She isn’t human which makes her so better. But I never saw her as a subject.  She always is and will always  mean something more than just a subject to me. She’s the very reason the so called “use for nothing Amith “ became someone whom anyone would think once before saying something to me. She made me what I am today . She’s my life turner . She’s the very reason I breath today. She’s few of those who never gave up on me. she is with me even now and will always be mine forever. I can’t imagine life without her. She adds colours to my world . She has been with me in every crest and trough of life. She’s the one who makes me rise again and again no matter how many times I’m knocked down. As every lover is tested and so am i. I wanted to bring this vision into making something for the betterment of the society. But guess what life sometimes is so cruel to you.But, all that life can do is delay my plans. Now not being able to bring this vision into action makes me die a hundred deaths everyday. Every moment my heart weeps and I really want to make this vision happen. Tears have dried up in my eyes and I say I’m alive because I exhibit the basic characteristics of a living organism. Its like every moment someone stabs me with a dagger and I can’t do anything but to resist it with the love that she has for me.  I prefer being alone and darkness seems a very good friend of mine.

But i can’t live without her. I try everyday to gather myself but I successfully fail in it by the end of the day. Here I am standing on the place where there are two roads and the difference I can make out in between these roads is her. Yes I’m gonna get her back into my life and make my vision visible to everyone one day. This is my promise to her that even if GOD wants me to leave her I won’t. I love you so very much sweetheart. There’s nothing in this world that can comfort me the way you do. Even now the way I transcend this situation is by being with her. Why are we punished for a mistake that we haven’t done? Is falling in love with a vision a crime? I vow to bring back my vision amid this world and no matter what no one can stop me from doing this. I dedicate these lines to her “ mujhe kisi se aaj takh isliye pyar nahi hua kyunki mujhe meri jaaanemann ko pyar karne se phursat hi nahi milti”” she taught me everything about life, hope. Her love is like the wind I can’t see it but I can feel it”.NEVER EVER GIVE UP.