Quarter Life Crisis!

The year 2016 is coming to an end and I am sure there are a lot of us gearing up for Christmas singing “Single Bell Single Bell, Single all the way”. In this era of relationships gaining so much of attention, turning 25 is a major checkpoint in our lives. Both, in terms of how we have fared in our personal and professional lives, which I think need to be balanced. In this post, I am going to stick to the personal life.

Well, turning 25 makes you wonder about what age do you want to get married at and there is a lot of hogwash on the internet on what is the right age or the right time to get married. Also, something interesting to notice is that your relationship status is taken as a marker for evaluating your life. Which, again is the height of stupidity. I really wonder why staying single is somehow quite underrated. I don’t see why a person’s relationship status needs to be a parameter to measure the value of one’s life. Relationships should be a choice and not an obligation.

There is so much more to you than just your relationship status. Don’t let your relationship status define who you are. Trust me on this even if you collate all the happenings of your life till today, who you are is so much more than that. Don’t let yourself be fit into the moulds of conventionality.  Be your own version of whoever you want to be. If you do get into a relationship and it doesn’t work out, It’s hard to recover from I agree. But, there are a lot of things you can do with your life apart from having a girlfriend/boyfriend. Also, relationships are seen today with such a narrow perspective. A boy and a girl can only bond in two major categories. The family friend category or the life partner category. Since these are widely accepted in society. We usually try to fit all our relationships into these two categories and try to make the ends meet. But doing so at times only destroys the relationship.   Let’s just try to see relationships as they are and try not to stretch them just to fit them into a certain category. let's just look at relationships for what they are and not what we want them to be. There are so many ways in which you can connect with someone. Maybe in terms of having similar literature interests, may be having the same taste of music, maybe someone to talk to when you’re facing a problem.

Even if you wish to stay alone and you want to make something out of your life, I am sure that is again a great way of handling your life. Set your dreams. Chase them. Feel the passion of doing something you absolutely love. Explore your talents, hobbies. The best part being the way you get to know who are. What is it that you love. For the movie/serial fanatics(including me), movies or serials are never "just movies" or "just serials" to you. Absorbing certain thoughts from the favourite characters of your favourite movies or serials. Build yourself on such pillars and you’re sure to make a skyscraper out of yourself.

No matter which of the above paths you choose, all these paths have something incredible to offer to you.So this Christmas irrespective of you wanting a life partner, or a relationship or just rediscover yourself, add value to yourself and your life. Here’s me wishing all of you a very peaceful and healthy Christmas. May each one of your wishes be fulfilled. SPIRIT!