Boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, best friends forever
and the latest, fractions of these roles. The most riveting topics among youth.
We all have people in our lives to whom we say our "i love yous” our "i will always be there for
yous" our "you're the closest one to my hearts", " i care
for yous" and the list is interminable. We all have at least one person in
our life with whom we share all that happens with us. We use all the above
mentioned sweet gratifying sentences to let them know how poignant they are in
our lives. It all seems like it’s going to last forever and ever.
It’s after this that the real problem arises. COMMITMENT!
When I say commitment let me make myself clear that it’s not just about
boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Commitment is just being able to walk the
talk. If you can stay by the words you have spoken, that is commitment.
Commitment to most these days appears to be the ghost that haunts their minds.
When it comes to commitment I see four kinds of people. Firstly those who
really love it, who are just waiting to say something and stand by it. Secondly
those who get into commitments only if it’s in their comfort zone. Third, those
who are scared, so scared to open their mouth because they might have to stand
by what they've said.Finally , the rare ones who never say anything. But all they think of is goodness of their loved ones and do far more than what they ever say.
It doesn't matter if you belong to any of the above four species. You will have the fear of not being able to stand by it. Hurting
someone. Loosing trust. Which results in self-deprecating yourselves. As much
as I hate to admit it, even I couldn't keep some promises. Couldn't stand on
some words I spoke to someone. Now that is what I call “Human”. We are not
robots and we happen to be erroneous at times.
Does that mean we should stop making commitments? I am sure your answer
in unison would be no.
Commitments tell us who we are. But, failing to keep them sheds
the light on the fact that “We Are Humans”. Also, the more you want to obviate
something, the more it claws right back into your life. At the same time taking
it too lightly might spifflicate someone’s life way out of proportions. I am
sure many of you might see commitments synonymous to pressure. But, the truth
is it was made so that human life could revolve around it. If you happen to
break a commitment to someone, it’s not the end. You can still earn back the
feeling that the person had for you. Not that it’s easy but not impossible
either. It wouldn't hurt us to forgive someone if the person truly deserves it.
Even if you screw up, don’t give up. I recall a line from
Harry Potter movies – “Help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who ask
for it”. I have my own version of this applied to life “Second chance in life
will always be given to those who undoubtedly deserve it”. So just make sure
you are deserving and wait for your chance. Finally, my message to everyone
this New Year is to find it in ourselves the finesse to stand by your
commitments. Don't avoid it, instead embrace it and I am sure by doing so you
will be able to rejuvenate the human inside you.
